{"id":1211,"date":"2019-07-19T18:07:18","date_gmt":"2019-07-19T18:07:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theweddingplanner.com.hk\/staging\/?p=1211"},"modified":"2024-04-26T04:56:10","modified_gmt":"2024-04-25T20:56:10","slug":"six-things-wedding-guests-should-never-do-according-to-wedding-planners","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theweddingplanner.com.hk\/staging\/six-things-wedding-guests-should-never-do-according-to-wedding-planners\/","title":{"rendered":"\u200bSix things wedding guests should never do, according to wedding planners"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Anyone who\u2019s planned a wedding will know that however much you love your friends and family, it\u2019s normally the guests who cause the biggest headache when it comes to the big day.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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From constant text messages about the local parking situation, to someone eating all the cake, to that one guest who indulges in one too many G&Ts, there are plenty of ways to put undue pressure on the bride and groom.<\/p>\n

So how can you avoid being the wedding guest of nightmares? We asked four wedding planners<\/a> to share their advice on things a wedding guest should never do\u2026<\/p>\n

1. Complain about the date<\/h2>\n

\u201cNever complain about the date, especially if it clashes with a big sports fixture\u201d<\/p>\n

While we can\u2019t imagine many of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle\u2019s wedding guests complained about their nuptials clashing with the FA Cup Final, some couples do find themselves on the receiving end of guests\u2019 disappointment regarding the wedding date - and it\u2019s not going to make you popular.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible for a couple to take every guests\u2019 plans into consideration when picking a day (they will probably have checked the date with anyone considered essential before booking), so if the date isn\u2019t ideal you just have to like it or lump it.<\/p>\n

The same goes for other elements of the wedding, such as the location - if it\u2019s inconvenient, feel free to politely explain that you can\u2019t make it, but mouthing off to the couple will do you no favours.<\/p>\n

2. Take ages to RSVP<\/h2>\n
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A common complaint among brides and grooms-to-be is the snail\u2019s pace at which guests respond to invites.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou must always respond within the timeframe on the invite\u201d\u00a0 \u201cPut yourself in the couple\u2019s shoes - they will be relying on confirmation of guest numbers for their venue and caterers, so communicate in a timely manner.\u201d<\/p>\n

Once you have RSVP\u2019ed you should be 100% committed to going to the wedding, rather than changing your mind if a \u2018better offer\u2019 comes up.<\/p>\n

However, occasionally there are circumstances where you can no longer go to the wedding, for example due to illness, urgent work commitments or the death of a family member. \u201cIf any of these events occur, get in touch the the couple as soon as you\u2019re aware that you or your partner can no longer attend, and explain the situation\u201d says Carolyn. Promptness is key.<\/p>\n

3. Ask questions which you could answer yourself<\/h2>\n

There are a million and one details to think about when planning a wedding, and the last thing the bride needs is her Auntie Jane bombarding her with questions about whether the B&B will provide an ironing board.<\/p>\n

Couples generally include as much information as they can in their invites, so it\u2019s better to simply call the accommodation provider yourself, or Google details on transport or parking.<\/p>\n

If you really must ask the bride and groom a question, do it as far as possible in advance of the wedding, before last-minute nerves have set in.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s ok to ask the couple questions a few months before the wedding; if it is less than a month, ask the venue coordinator, best man, bridesmaid or mother of the bride rather than bothering the couple\u201d.<\/p>\n

4. Quibbling over the guest list<\/h2>\n

Many brides and grooms are surprised to discover that some people deem the guest list to be negotiable.<\/p>\n

All the wedding planners we spoke to were very clear - it is not okay to ask to bring extra people to a wedding.<\/p>\n

\u201cWeddings are one of the most expensive days of people\u2019s lives, and guests should be grateful that they have been invited\u201d<\/p>\n

Wedding stylist Katie Sutton agrees, saying \u201cYou need to remember that creating a guest list is very hard, and the couple can never please everyone. More often than not budget plays a big part. I\u2019m sure that if a couple could, they would invite everyone, but you ultimately have to respect their wishes.\u201d<\/p>\n

Finances, the size of the venue and the prioritising of close family can all have an impact on who gets invited, so if you don\u2019t get a plus one, try not to be offended.<\/p>\n

The same goes for children - not everyone will want kids at their wedding, and as a guest you must accept this decision.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhile children can provide a lot of fun and entertainment, some couples would rather say their vows without a child screaming in the background\u201d . \u201cThink of it as a chance to leave the kids with a babysitter and have a night off!\u201d<\/p>\n

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5. Trying to upstage the bride<\/h2>\n

We all want to look good when we attend a wedding, but there\u2019s a difference between choosing a lovely dress and going out of your way to grab the limelight.<\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t wear white!\u201d we suggest. \u201cUnless the bride has specifically said it\u2019s ok, I would always err on the side of tradition.\u201d<\/p>\n

Trying to steal the couple\u2019s thunder in other ways is also not advised. \u201cNo unplanned speeches or performances\u201d. \u201cUnless you\u2019ve been asked to contribute, don\u2019t think you can rock the mic just because you\u2019ve had a few glasses of fizz and feel extra confident.\u201d<\/p>\n

6. Causing trouble on the day<\/h2>\n

It should really go without saying, but starting arguments, complaining or getting too drunk on the wedding day are all major no-nos.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve personally witnessed some outrageous behaviour at wedding that has caused the breakdown of friendships as a result\u201d .<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t complain about the food - the couple will have done their best to accommodate everyone\u2019s dietary requirements, but it isn\u2019t always possible to have multiple meal options (you can always quietly ask the waiting staff for some extra bread if you really are starving).<\/p>\n

Telling inappropriate stories about the bride and groom is also discouraged, (even best men should consider the suitability of their tales).<\/p>\n

Above all, leave any family or friendship feuds outside of the venue - a loud argument is quickest way to get yourself blacklisted from all future events.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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